You walk into a grocery store, minding your own business. You have someone by your side. You're going about your day, like normal.
Suddenly, someone sticks a gun in your ribs and covers your mouth. You can't scream, you can't move. There's nothing YOU can do.
You have one shot at living. ONE chance. And that chance rests in who is standing by your side.
Who would that person be? Who do you trust your life with?
Drama Setter, the song . . . by Eminem and Tony Yayo. Yep, you know the one. That, I Want To Be A Billionaire, and Beverly Hills, all spring to mind, lol.
Complications on getting this book to market. Complications with the file. Complications, interruptions, confusion, lol. What's life without that?
Oh yeah . . . a paradise! lol . . . maybe I'll write about that someday . . .
LOL, something like that.
Just got the baby sent to the printer today! Should have galley in a week and headed into bookstores after that . . . barring no complications.
Troy and gang are on their way.
To me, this part completes the first excerpt:
Lean Just Beyond Your Edge
In any given moment, a man's growth is optimized if he leans just beyond his edge, his capacity, his fear. He should not be too lazy, happily stagnating in the zone of security and comfort. Nor should he push far beyond his edge, stressing himself unnecessarily, unable to metabolize his experience. He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear and discomfort. Constantly. In everything he does.
Once you are honest with yourself about your real edge, it is best to lean just beyond it. Very few men have the guts for this practice. Most men either settle for the easy path or self-aggrandize themselves by taking the extreme hard path. Your insecurity may cause you to doubt yourself, and so you take the easy way, not even approaching your real edge or your real gift. Alternatively, your insecurity may lead you to push, push, push, seeking to become victorious over your own sense of lack.
Both approaches avoid your actual condition in the moment, which is often fear. If you are stressfully avoiding your fear, you cannot relax into the fearless.
Your fear is the sharpest definition of your self. You should know it. You should feel it virtually constantly.
Fear needs to become your friend, so that you are no longer uncomfortable with it. Rather, primary fear shows you that you are at your edge. Staying with the fear, staying at your edge, allows real transformation to occur. Neither lazy nor aggressive, playing your edge allows you to perceive the moment with the least amount of distortion. You are willing to be with what is, rather than trying to escape it by pulling back from it, or trying to escape it by pushing beyond it into some future goal.
Fear of fear may lead you to hang back, living a lesser life than you are capable. Fear of fear may lead you to push ahead, living a false life, off center, tense and missing the moment. But the capacity to feel this moment, including your fear, without trying to escape it, creates a state of alive and humble spontaneity. You are ready for the unknown as it unfolds, since you are not pulled back or pushed forward from the horizon of the moment. You are hanging right over the edge.
By leaning just beyond your fear, you challenge your limits compassionately, without trying to escape the feeling of fear itself. You step beyond the solid ground of security with an open heart. You stand in the space of unknowingness, raw and awake. Here, the gravity of deep being will attend you to the only place where fear is obsolete: the eternal free fall of home. Where you always are.
Own your fear, and lean just beyond it. In every aspect of your life. Starting now.
Troy and gang have enjoyed a nice vacation while I've focused on other projects. I've been writing an article for Examiner to support our troops as well.
Along with hanging out with my Marine friend and a couple of buddies of his. Sharing my knowledge and giving them a few tips and us just having a blast.
Work has started on the first sequel to Troy's story. Finally, lol.
Now, time to get them in print, not just eprint, but hard form . . .
Know Your Real Edge and Don’t Fake It
This is Chapter 4 in the book. This is something that would benefit us all, greatly.
It is honorable for a man to admit his fears, resistance, and edge of practice. It is simply true that each man has his limit, his capacity for growth, and his destiny. But it is dishonorable for him to lie to himself or others about his real place. He shouldn't pretend he is more enlightened than he is--nor should he stop short of his actual edge. The more a man is playing his real edge, the more valuable he is as good company for other men, the more he can be trusted to be authentic and fully present. Where a man's edge is located is less important than whether he is actually living his edge in truth, rather than being lazy or deluded.
Pick an area of your life, perhaps your intimate relationship, your career, your relationship with your children, or your spiritual practice. For instance, you are currently doing something to earn a living. Where do your fears stop you from making a larger contribution to mankind, from earning a higher income, or from earning money in a more creative and enjoyable way? If you were absolutely fearless, would you be earning a living in exactly the same way as you are now? Your edge is where you stop short, or where you compromise your fullest gift, and, instead, cater to your fears.
Have you lost touch with the fears that are limiting and shaping your income and style of livelihood? If you have deluded yourself and feel that you are not afraid, then you are lying to yourself. All men are afraid, unless they are perfectly free. If you cannot admit this, you are pretending to yourself, and to others. Your friends will feel your fear, even if you do not. Thus, they will lose trust in you, knowing you are deluding yourself, lying to yourself, and are therefore likely to lie to them, consciously or unconsciously.
Or, perhaps you are very aware of your fears: your fear to take risks, your fear of failing, or your fear of succeeding. Perhaps you are comfortable with your life, and you fear the lifestyle change that might accompany a change in career, even though the new career will be closer to what you really want to do with your life. Some men fear the feeling of fear and therefore don't even approach their edge. They choose a job they know they can do well and easily, and don't even approach the fullest giving of their gift. Their lives are relatively secure and comfortable, but dead. They lack the aliveness, the depth, and the inspirational energy that is the sign of a man living at his edge. If you are this kind of man who is hanging back, working hard perhaps, but not at your real edge, other men will not be able to trust that you can and will help them live at their edge and give their fullest gift.
As an experiment, describe your edge with respect to your career out loud to yourself. Say something like, "I know I could be earning more money, but I am too lazy to put in the extra hours it would take. I know that I could give more of my true gift, but I am afraid that I may not succeed, and then I will be a penniless failure. I've spent 15 years developing my career, and I'm afraid to let go of it and start fresh, even though I know that I spend most of my life doing things I have no real interest in doing. I could be making money in more creative ways, but I spend too much time watching tv rather than being creative."
Honor your edge. Honor your choices. Be honest with yourself about them. Be honest with your friends about them. A fearful man who knows he is fearful is far more trustable than a fearful man who isn't aware of his fear. And a fearful man who still leans into his fear, living at his edge and putting his gift out from there, is more trustworthy and more inspirational than a fearful man who hangs back in the comfort zone, unwilling to even experience his fear on a day to day level. A free man is free to acknowledge his fears, without hiding them, or hiding from them. Live with your lips pressed against your fears, kissing your fears, neither pulling back nor aggressively violating them.
. . . How many of us can say we live like this? How many of us, instead, violate our own trust in ourselves and therefore others' trust in us?
Sure, girls want to judge a book by it's cover. It's called first impressions. My first impression of you? You're shallow . . .
Well, I had an ex tonight talk about my "rep" to my dad. Yeah, so what. It's not like I'm doing anything illegal. I don't do drugs, don't drink when I'm out, etc.
However, this "rep" does follow me around with certain people. At the club tonight, had a couple of guys that I know in there. One of which was telling all the girls . . . "don't underestimate him", and "do you know who this is?", and "I learned everything I know from him", and . . . "he only takes 10's now, but I gotta start somewhere." LOL
Well, as long as he learned something . . . lol
You know, I've been trying to teach several of these guys out there. Good to know someone picked up on some stuff, lol.
Oh what fun it is to ride a sleigh . . . um, yeah . . . S