Why do we let fear control us?

Self-sabotage.


Both men and women are susceptible to it. 


Something starts going good, you get scared, and you look for a way to mess it up. This can happen consciously or subconsciously, though usually it's sub.


"It's just too good to be true."


That statement is a statement of self-sabotage.


Stop it. Enjoy when things are going well. Life brings enough problems, don't add on to them by wrecking what's good.

You've got your entire past of bad memories anchored to your mind forming your current belief system. This is what you now believe about yourself. This is where you draw from to say "I can" or "I can't" do something here in the present and in the future.


It's a common thing. Everyone has good and bad experiences. These experiences, throughout our life are anchored to certain actions or events in our life. For instance, you were traveling through a certain intersection when someone turned in front of you. Now, every time you travel through this same intersection, feelings of fear and dread flow through you, along with you being extra aware of all the traffic at this intersection. You may even still EXPECT someone to turn in front of you again. This is because the even is tied to this intersection, or ANCHORED to you this way. This is what an anchor is.


In dating and seduction we use anchors as well, but we try to make those anchors positive. In other words, is the girl enjoying being with you? Good, then give her a cute nick name, or take her to a fun place, or do something memorable so that she anchors that good memory with you. 


Well, when we deal with our past, the years that have led to this moment in your life, you already have tons upon tons of anchors in your mind from all of your life experiences. These anchors usually tend to be negative for most people. These anchors form your current belief system, in other words, they form the ideas of what you think you can and can't do now, at this point in your life.


It's time to free yourself from these anchors. What you've done in the past has no effect on what you can do now. What you can do now is only limited by what you believe you can do and what action you take to make things happen in your life now.


Form some new anchors. Positive ones.

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I'm still contemplating whether I should put everything on this one or continue adding to that one as well. So, while I'm waging this mental battle of my own . . . check out that blog. Who knows . . . you may even like it . . . heaven forbid you actually learn something ;)

This is the seed of what will be my book on my Dating and Seduction Coach career.


As a Dating Coach, AKA Dating Doctor, I have many thrills . . . and chills. I see guys and girls at their best . . . and worst. As a part of my profession, body language, mindset, and wording is watched and taught. 

I'm the one that tells the guy standing in the corner with a drink covering his chest, to drop the drink and get on the floor and socialize. Not only do I tell him to do this, however . . . I teach him how to do it, partially by example with me demonstrating the skills myself. 

I have the joy and pleasure of working with guys from each end of the spectrum. Those that have no guts whatsoever to those who can meet a girl and in less than an hour have her in his bed. I also have the adventures of working with women who are trying to learn how to flirt . . . and how to filter the guys that aren't worth it. 

All in all, it's fun work. It's also not something everyone can do because not every has the ability to teach. With that said, I honestly believe everyone can learn these principles and put them into effect for themselves, in their own lives. 

I teach guys the basic principles of attracting females, making them comfortable with you, and seducing those that are interested in going there with the man. Along with this, girls are taught by me what to watch for from these guys, to make sure they're not being played. 

I know the signs, from both genders. I also know the misconceptions. Such as . . . how you dress matters, but it matters less and less the more confident you are. Im my field, we call this confidence Inner Game. We have a language all our own that you most likely would not recognize if you know nothing about this field. With that said, don't have the mistaken impression that I'll teach you all the language, or all of the secrets of my field. Nope, not the purpose of this book. But I will let you in on the inside of some things.